Tonight there was an information evening organised by Infertility Research Trust at the Red Deer pub in the upstairs room. It was a chance for an evening of informal chat with friends and experts about infertility. Keep your eyes peeled for any future events they organise as these are an ideal opportunity to chat to highly regarded consultants and professors and ask all the questions you always wanted to ask. They also really encourage men along too who often don't want to come to our meetings and 'just chat', but the IRT evenings are really informative so they may find them interesting and useful too. Recently these events haven't been well attended so you really can get expert advice tailored to your circumstances if you wish and that opportunity for free doesn't come up often, so make the most of it!
We met up at the Psalter pub for a good natter. As Prof Cooke said to us last month, there are huge benefits to just being heard by people who understand and can empathise and that's what this group is all about.
Tonight we had the chance to talk to Professor Ian Cooke from Sheffield Infertility Research Trust at the Broadfield pub! This was an ideal opportunity to chat to a highly regarded professional and we bombarded him with lots of questions, ranging from discussions about exercise to various different elements of treatment and other alternative treatments that some people use additionally such as acupuncture.
It felt like a good idea to let our hair down a bit and go out for dinner, seeing as it is Christmas. It can be a really tricky time of year: so focused on families, lots of sentimental heart-wrenching Christmas ads on the tv to avoid, not to mention for some people the difficulty of dealing with the feelings that arise when spending time with their own families. So it was nice to go out and eat together, socialising with other people who just 'get it'. There was no need for explanations, or trying to hide feelings or worrying about whether those feelings are 'normal' or 'wrong'. It is just great to know that other people have been there and felt those feelings too and however isolating a social family-orientated occasion can feel, we are not alone in the pain that is infertility.
There wasn't enough takers this month to book the cake shop so we resorted to going to the pub! It was great to meet up, catch up and off-load by sharing our news. For those of us not currently in treatment it was also a good excuse to make the most of not being pregnant by having a drink too!
I didn't make it to today's catch up through feeling too caught up in the stress of a frozen embryo transfer cycle to even manage socialising with people who I know care and know how I feel. It just goes to show what a difficult journey this can be.
Today we had a meeting at a members' house so that we could sit around the computer and listen and view a webinar about stress and infertility organised by Infertility Network UK (IN UK). Afterwards we shared our own reflections on how we deal with the stress caused by infertility. If you missed the webinar it is available to watch again via the INUK website.
Tonight we met again at Steel City Cakes and again enjoyed chatting away whilst comforting ourselves with some lovely cake! No particular focus to today's discussions, it was just really nice to talk in knowing company. A few new members came along again as well which was great. We did discuss some books that we have read about infertility. Are there any that have helped you through this?
Tonight we met at Steel City Cakes which was fantastic because we got the place to ourselves and were able to enjoy chatting away whilst comforting ourselves with some lovely cake! No particular focus to today's discussions, it was just really nice to talk in knowing company. A few new members came along as well which was great.
Talk to other members...
We now have a secret group on Facebook ie. none of your Facebook friends will see that you are a member or what you post there. So it is a safe place to chat to other members and hear about the latest meet ups. Find out how to get invited by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org.