Tonight we met up for our usual chat at the Red Deer. I did a quick talk at the start about mindfulness which has been a really useful help to me in dealing with the emotional rollercoaster that it infertility. We also of course had the usual informal chat and catch up!
Tonight was a lecture organised by the Sheffield-based Infertility Research Trust. There were 2 lectures, the first an overview of reproduction and the method of IVF by Prof Ian Cooke, and the second by Dr Shehnaaz Jivraj on current assisted conception techniques in more detail. Even for those of us getting rather experienced in the treatment process, it was useful to hear about it all from the science perspective and have the opportunity to ask lots of questions that you don't think of or get round to asking in an appointment at the clinic. It sounds as though this might be the 1st event of many, so keep your eyes peeled for the next one.
At today's meeting we had a talk from Jo Moon, an Acupuncturist based at The Stillpoint Practice. It was really interesting to hear about how acupuncture may help support fertility treatment and find out more about it. I also asked about acupressure and found out that you can have a little seed taped in your ear which if placed at a certain point can help boost endorphins combating stress and depression. After the talk we then had the usual chat as a group and as always it felt great to laugh and relax in the company of others who know so well how you feel. So a lovely evening and I went home with a great little seed in my ear and am looking forward to seeing how it works!
Sometimes it's just great to get out and socialise but without the awkward thought of what the conversation might hold. Tonight was a lovely chance for a chat amongst couples at Butlers Balti, not to mention the nice food too. Most of the conversation was usual sociable stuff, what we get up to at weekends, what we do at work, but when it came to discussing infertility it was good to know we were all in the same boat and we all understood.
We started the meeting with a demonstration of how to do a hand massage and then all got the chance to have one. A lovely relaxing treat from the nice students at SCMT. Feeling nice and chilled, we then had the usual good natter and managed to find ourselves laughing at the absurdity of treatment and the ways we find to try and find something to feel positive about!
A lovely evening was had in the Broadfield having a natter... perhaps just as well we were in one of the lovely wooden old-fashioned booths so nobody could overhear our conversations - it's funny how natural it becomes to talk about things you'd never have dreamed of when you are in the company of people who know how you feel!
Going through infertility treatment and waiting for treatment is emotionally exhausting. It's likely you'll need to be extra kind to yourself and allow for a few treats along the way. We've been offered some personal massage relaxation sessions courtesy of a student from Sheffield Centre for Massage Training at the Stillpoint practice in Nether Edge.
We have had our 1st meeting! Nine of us met up and chatted in the upstairs room at the Red Deer. It was a great opportunity to meet others and chat fairly informally about our experiences.
In particular we discussed the difficulties with finding out about other people's pregnancies and friends' babies being born, which several members had experienced recently. We also briefly discussed members' experiences of adoption information meetings.
Feedback from those who came was that they'd found it really useful and that more meetings were wanted. We're looking to try to increase meetings to twice a month, with one meeting being a very informal meet up for chat, and the other as a discussion-led chat with other activities. Unfortunately we're short of free and available venues, so any ideas welcomed!
I'm looking forward to the next meeting (women only) where as well as our informal chat, we are being treated to relaxing hand massages courtesy of students from Sheffield Centre for Massage training! Please bring a hand towel to protect your clothing.
Talk to other members...
We now have a secret group on Facebook ie. none of your Facebook friends will see that you are a member or what you post there. So it is a safe place to chat to other members and hear about the latest meet ups. Find out how to get invited by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org.